Every second, information and ideas are shared across the world verbally and non-verbally.
Thus, without communication taking place, man becomes immediately isolated and trapped.
Communication is an indispensable activity we all participate in. John Piece asserts that
“Communication is not only the essence of being human but also a vital property of life”
Despite its golden value, communication continues to be approached in a slothful manner,
only a lucky few have discovered its intensity which plays out in its role as a human
connection and bedrock to career and personal success.
Effective communication is a fantastic tool used in commanding attention from distinguished
people. It’s an effective tool in getting people team up in your business, stand as a guarantor,
and sponsor your business plans and ideas.
How do you communicate effectively? Here are 3 tips:
1. Be intentional
The first key to effective communication is the need to be intentional about the information,
emotions, reactions or signs we pass across. This explains why Bernard Shaw opines that
“The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place”.
Often times, when we try to communicate with others, it goes astray, we get misunderstood
and conflicts set in.
This is why we have had people accuse us of being indifferent, angry or lying, and we in turn
embark on another series of unclear conversations with them as we plead not guilty as
charged because truly we felt no anger. Rather than being indifferent, we were actually
interested and truly, we did not tell a lie but we were accused. These happened because of the
wrong signals we passed out while communicating and this mishap has led to several losses
of contracts, and job opportunities.
2. Listen carefully
There’s a big difference between engaged listening and simply hearing. When you practice
engaged listening, you’ll hear the subtle intonation in someone’s voice that tells you how that
person is feeling and the emotions they’re trying to communicate.
When you’re an engaged listener, not only will you better understand the other person, you’ll
also make that person feel heard and understood, which can help build a stronger connection.
Tips for becoming an engaged listener includes focusing on the speaker, providing feedback
and favouring the right ear as research has it that the right ear is effective in receiving sounds
from speech. This helps to detect the emotional nuances of what someone is communicating.
3. Pay attention to non-verbal cues
Developing the ability to understand and properly use nonverbal cues aids connection with
others. These cues include body language, facial expressions, body movement and gestures,
eye contact, posture, the tone of your voice, and even your muscle tension and breathing.
These cues go a long way in helping you become assertive because direct and assertive
expressions make for clear communication
Where can you apply these tips?
Imagine you’re at a gathering with distinguished people, media personalities and top business
influencers that can pull a major twist to your business. In such a scenario, it’s important to make
useful contributions, ask intelligent questions, and generally make a good impression.
After the gathering, you should consider walking up to the speaker and engaging them in an
intellectual discourse while communicating right with the tips discussed above. Bear in mind
that, everyone is looking for something and by offering something of value, something the
other person wants, you will always get their attention but with the right mode of
I close with the words of Brian Tracy, “Communication is a skill that you can learn. It’s like
riding a bicycle or typing. If you’re willing to work at it, you can rapidly improve the quality
of every part of your life.”
Izuehien Mary Ngozi
Social Media Manager